Hello lovelies,
And I am here to tell you of a very interesting thing that has come into my awareness and am excited to share. So little background story may be needed for those of you who have not heard the podcast or follow us on social media or any of those lovely things we expect (and would like to insist you do :))
I met my ex husband at 23, got married at 24 and divorced at 38. For those of you who are in your 40s and have my protected upbringing, it may not sound odd when I say I had zero experience of dating. For me, you met guys, if a guy asked you out you assumed he would marry you and so went out with him, heh. Therefore imagine me in 2019 wanting to navigate the world of men—that’s right, fucking clueless. And then I met Ameya! And since this seems to be a newsletter where I tell you stuff: Ameya has written this fabulous blog called 50 Dates in Delhi, which if you haven’t read—YOU MUST! She also wrote on this for Elle.
So anyway, Ameya taught and I learned and then I mastered—not the art of love and commitment, that continues to elude me, but the art of online apps and dating. And for me, it was just a normal thing for men to refer to the fact that I am a fat woman at some point, in some way. In the last month or so though, I have been pleasantly surprised. I am meeting or speaking with men who make me aware that I am exciting and attractive and that’s it. No mention of weight, size, “health”, fat as a kink, etc. In the beginning I wondered whether it was me, and I didn’t bring it up. But no, they just see me as a woman they are interested in… period.
And honestly, I will admit, I have learned from them. To see myself that way—as a person who is interesting and attractive and fun and intelligent and all those things that make me, me. This my dear friends, is making me cry. Fat has always been a part of my personality—whether from the fatphobia perspective or the fat liberation perspective. But to see myself as a person, without any label is just liberating.
I shall leave you with this, lovely ones, and a summary in a reel on IG. Ameya and I are soon going to be separated physically for the better part of two months which makes me sad. Though I will be cat sitting and have my recliner all to myself which makes me happy. You will keep hearing from us and do follow us @fatsopodcast on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook to stay in touch with our crazy adventures!
Ooh, other interesting news is that the pitch for our book is almost ready to get out there into the world, which is very exciting and motivating us to double down and keep at the writing.
Much love and hugs,
Pallavi (& Ameya)
I think Amaya and her stupid fat friend need to lose weight. Like 7 tons. You two need a crane to get out of your house and have to ride In the back of trucks to get anywhere. You fat women will never find a good man. Regular men do not want do date fat dummies.
You fatsoes are not attractive nor beautiful.
I am loving all your happy news!!